Tips For Parents Of Children With ADHD

Raising a child is a one-of-a-kind experience. It brings joy, of course, but it is not without its struggles. For example, if your child has been diagnosed with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), childrearing involves new experiences and new challenges. Depending on how ADHD impacts your particular child, you will need to create unique rules, routines, and more.

None of this has to be viewed as negative. Under any circumstances, every home will have its own rhythms and patterns. When ADHD is present, those patterns help bring more order to a potentially frustrating scenario. With some guidance and self-education, you can work together and thrive together.

Common Ways ADHD Affects Kids

Here are just a few tendencies that can require patience and creativity from parents:

  • Not paying attention or listening
  • Easily distracted
  • Forgetfulness
  • Difficulty in following directions
  • Lack of organization
  • Struggles at school

ADHD can manifest in fidgeting, careless mistakes, and constant motion. It results in interruptions, emotional outbursts, and an inability to wait one’s turn. Such behaviors appear to be acting out, and this can confuse a parent. But as they learn more about this disorder, they can discover powerful ways to take productive steps in their children’s lives.

Tips For Parents Of Children With ADHD

Commit to Self-Education

ADHD is common, but it affects each child differently. So, learn the basics about the disorder while also becoming well aware of your child’s specific needs. Share what you learn with your child and make ADHD an open, comfortable topic of discussion.

Set Positive Expectations

Give your child one behavior at a time to focus on. Explain clearly to them what is needed. Allocate far more effort toward guidance than toward reacting. Take things one day at a time — for your child and yourself.

Don’t Take Everything Personally

This is easier said than done, but never forget that ADHD is most often the cause when your child misbehaves. Slowly but surely, replace resentment with patience. But at the same time, make it clear that you are a rule maker and you will enforce those rules. If necessary, discipline your child gently. Make it a teaching lesson, not a method of revenge.

Connect With Others

For starters, get to know your child’s teachers, therapists, and anyone else who is part of their life. Guide them and learn from them. Also, look for support groups — in-person and online — to connect with other parents who “get” it. Share resources, stories, and hope.

Through It All, Prioritize Your Relationship With Your Child

Even on tricky days, set aside time to just be with your child — talking, laughing, relaxing, and having fun. Turn off your devices. Aim your full attention on your child and allow them to experience what that feels like. Give them a break from feeling inadequate. Show them that even when you get frustrated, it doesn’t stop you from loving them and believing in them. Take a respite from teaching or comparing, and use this time to deepen your bond.

And Never Forget That You Matter, Too

To be at your best when guiding your child, you must commit to practicing self-love and self-care. Safeguard your daily habits as they pertain to eating choices, sleep patterns, and physical activity. Make time to reap the benefits of stress management and relaxation techniques. Resist the urge to make ADHD a full-time obsession. Actively seek joy and meaning in other parts of your life, too.

Also, remember that therapy is not just for your child. You can find solace and healing by meeting regularly with a skilled professional. Let’s connect and talk soon about your many options.

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