Hold Me Tight – Couples Workshop
July 15-16, 2023
A Relationship Workshop to Build a Stronger Connection
Hold Me Tight: Conversations for Connection is a 2-day educational program based on the theory and practice of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). It is focused on helping couples shape and use the seven conversations laid out in the book Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson.
July 15-16, 2023
July 15: 9am-5pm
July 16: 9am-4pm
8601 Turnpike Drive, Suite 106
Westminster, CO 80031
Early Bird Registration: $350 before June 15th, 2023
How will this workshop help my relationship?
You will be able to interact in new and healthier ways and feel closer to each other.
You will better understand romantic love – the pivotal moves & moments that define a relationship.
You will better understand your emotions and needs and your partners’ emotional responses and needs.
You will be able to describe and control negative interactions, or loops, that create pain & distance.
You will better understand the healing moments of reaching and responding that create a secure bond.
What can I expect during the workshop?
You and your partner will have an opportunity to learn about different ways of communicating and then have an opportunity to practice these skills.
The workshop is a mixture of educational and hands–on activities.
There will be several additional therapists available to help you as you have these conversations in case you get stuck or need guidance.
You will also do exercises privately, together as a couple, so that you have the opportunity to practice these skills in an emotionally safe environment.
This Workshop Is Ideal For:
Couples who feel distant, disconnected, or that something is missing in their relationship.
Couples who don’t have time for a weekly therapy session, and would like to commit to a weekend of working on their relationship.
Couples who are currently in couples therapy, and would like additional tools, or a boost to their relationship, or want to “fast forward” their therapy work.
Couples who may be feeling good about their relationship, but would like to make sure it continues that way.
Couples who are committed to improving their relationship, but may not be ready for couples therapy.
This Workshop Is Not Ideal For:
Couples where one or both partners are not committed to improving or saving the relationship.
Couples where an active affair is going on.
Couples where there is active interpersonal violence.
What does the workshop fee include?
- Workshop focused on helping you heal your relationship over two days. Saturday, 9-5 and Sunday, 9-4.
- Experienced Couples Therapist facilitators.
- Workbook with many helpful exercises.
- Presentation of materials, including videos of couples working through the Hold Me Tight® exercises.
- Time and private space for you and your partner to discuss the exercises.
What is EFT?
EFT (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy) is an empirically tested model of couple therapy that has shown excellent outcomes with many different kinds of couples. There is also follow-up research that demonstrates the lasting effects of EFT interventions and research on precisely how change occurs in this approach. The practice of EFT reflects the many studies of adult attachment theory- an empirically based perspective that forms the basis for the emerging science of love and loving.
Over the last two decades, EFT has developed as a systematic and powerfully effective approach to reducing relationship distress and helping couples to create trust and intimacy. The ultimate goal in EFT is to enable partners to not only reduce conflict and distance but to shape their relationship into a more loving secure bond.
EFT is the first couple therapy to be based on a well defined and tested understanding of adult love. It has also shown positive results with couples who are dealing with particularly difficult problems, for example, where partners are trauma survivors, are caring for a chronically ill child, or are struggling with depression as well as relationship distress.
EFT views the central problem in a distressed relationship as the loss of secure emotional connection and the pattern of negative interactions that both reflects and perpetuates this loss. Compelling emotional signals that are meant to pull a partner closer or reduce conflict, become distorted and shaded with criticism, anger or apparent indifference. Negative spirals of interaction then erode trust and continually exacerbate each partner’s natural vulnerabilities and sense of isolation. EFT helps partners to take control of this negative dance and to clarify their emotional signals about attachment needs and fears in a way that encourages their partner to respond with love and compassion. A new emotional experience of secure connection, a sense that the other person can be Accessible, Responsive and Engaged (A.R.E) transforms love relationships. Partners can then shape A.R.E. conversations that offer a positive answer to the key question, “Are you there for me?” Partners who are able to openly reach for and connect with each other can create the effective dependency that makes for a safe haven bond. This kind of bond promotes the growth and resilience of both individuals.