Do you or your partner feel consistently disconnected or like something is “missing” or just “off”?
Do you and your partner struggle to communicate?
Do you feel like your relationship has become all business and no play?
Do you wonder “is this all there is”?
You’re not alone.
Many couples experience disconnection at some point in their relationship. Through our work together we can help to bridge those hurts and communication gaps in order to foster safety and connection between you and your loved one again.
Available Online and In-Person
Who It’s For
We welcome all types of partnerships and only require that both parties have some investment in bettering the relationships. Some couples seek therapy for a specific problem, present or past hurt, or as a way to deepen their connection, understanding, and love for one another.
How It Works
Together we’ll meet on a regular basis to explore your relationship dynamics, communication patterns, and attachment styles. We are committed to creating the safe space we all need to explore and address what’s causing pain in the present.
Let’s Talk About:
- Improving Communication
- Resolving Sex Related Issues
- Collaborating on Parenting
- Discussing Financial Concerns
- Handling Major Life Changes
- Living With Family Members with Addiction
- Facing Death and Dying
- Navigating Infidelity
- Exploring Pre-Engagement Topics
Are you tired of the constant fighting?
Or feeling unseen and unloved?
Our highly-trained couples therapists are here to help you and your partner find a path forward.
Have You And Your Partner Lost Your Spark?
Does it seem like you can no longer communicate effectively with your partner? Whenever you bring up sensitive subjects, do you end up having the same argument over and over again? Are you looking for a way to bridge the ever-widening gap that’s growing between you?
Although you’re in a committed relationship and love each other, perhaps you have gradually become distant from one another. This lack of deep connection feels like you’re not on the same “team” anymore. As you struggle to keep the peace, you might avoid having conversations that you know will end in a fight.
Whether it’s disagreements over finances, the kids, or domestic duties, you can already anticipate how your partner will respond, making you irritated before you even bring up the subject with them.
Your Relationship May Have Hit A Rough Patch
It’s a sad realization to feel so alone in the relationship. The distance that has formed may be causing either you or your partner to be anxious or depressed. Growing apart, you find that you’re doing more and more things separately—you seem more like roommates than life partners. Maybe you wish your partner enjoyed spending time with you, or, conversely, that you enjoyed spending time with them like you used to.
Beyond the usual ups and downs that come with a long-term relationship, perhaps you’re struggling to overcome infidelity. If you’ve been hurt and betrayed by your partner’s indiscretion—or vice versa—you might be unsure whether your relationship can be saved.
However, the good news is couples therapy can help you and your partner find closeness in your relationship again. Working with a trained couples therapist, you will learn helpful ways to improve communication and reestablish a stronger bond.
Long-Term Relationships Face Numerous Obstacles
Although the divorce rate has decreased in recent years, the US Census Bureau reported in 2019, the marriage rate was 6.1 per 1,000 total population while the divorce rate was 2.7 per 1,000, representing a divorce rate of approximately 44 percent. These statistics don’t include cohabitating couples which, according to the Pew Research Center, “have surpassed married couples.” Therefore, we can assume the number of couples who eventually split up is even higher.
Regardless of whether or not we decide to marry, there are a multitude of familiar reasons why our relationships face challenges. According to Marriage.com, “The three most common reasons couples fight include lack of communication, extended family and friends, and a lack of emotional and physical intimacy.”
Covid-19 Has Put A Strain On Relationships
Unfortunately, the pandemic has put many relationships under additional pressure. Spending more time together at home with our partners without the usual outlet of friends and hobbies has been hard for many of us. Rather than the extra time we spent together bringing us closer, in some cases, it drove us apart.
However, even before the pandemic, the shifts in our culture have made us more reliant on our partners than in previous generations. Without a close-knit extended family nearby to support us, our partner often becomes our “everything”—lover, best friend, and co-parent. Even in the best of circumstances it’s a lot of pressure to put on one person and can lead to discord.
Trying to figure out how to mend our relationship is challenging for most of us simply because we don’t know how to go about changing things. We often think, “If only my partner would change, everything would be okay,” without honestly evaluating how our own behavior also contributes to the discord.
Couples Therapy Can Help Partners Bridge The Distance Between Them
There is hope! Therapy offers couples a safe place to assess what’s going on in their relationship with the help of a trained therapist. In this context, you can learn how to effectively communicate and find ways of restoring emotional and physical intimacy.
When you and your partner aren’t on the same page anymore, it can create a sense of unease and discontentment. Therapy gives you a safe space to explore the distance that has grown between you and restore the connection you’ve been missing. It also provides a place to talk about difficult issues that have been brushed under the rug and that you’ve been unable to resolve on your own.
When you commit to making your relationship a priority, you can expect to experience renewed intimacy while better understanding the negative cycles of communication that cause disconnection. When a difficult situation arises, you will be able to apply the tools you have learned together to create closeness rather than distance.
What To Expect In Sessions
The first session will be focused on understanding why you have decided to seek couples counseling and identifying any goals you might have. The following two sessions will usually be individual sessions where each of you will get a chance to speak candidly with the therapist about your impressions of the relationship. Thereafter, we will continue to meet with you together.
In ongoing sessions, we will explore what the nature of your disconnect is and how it shows up in everyday life. If infidelity has been an issue, we will explore any betrayals that may have occurred, as well as the underlying emotions that precipitated it. For other specific issues that may be challenging the relationship, such as struggling to share finances, we will offer you guidelines for how to resolve the issue.
Your therapist’s primary focus will be to help you and your partner create a deeper connection. They won’t take sides or perceive either of you as “wrong” or “broken.” Rather, they may point out instances when your communication style isn’t working, or, perhaps, creates a barrier to empathy and understanding.
The Modalities We Use For Couples Therapy
Our therapists utilize evidence-based approaches when working with couples, including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, and attachment-based therapy. While EFT is more emotionally based, the Gottman Method emphasizes the impact of behaviors on the relationship. And attachment-based therapy focuses on how relationships formed in childhood still impact how you form relationships now.
Depending on your specific needs, your therapist will incorporate the right combination of modalities to ensure that you and your partner are finding ways to connect that resonates with both of you.
Imagine if you could get back to how you once felt about your partner—close, connected, and secure in the knowledge that your relationship is on solid ground. Couples therapy makes this possible.
By mastering specific tools to help you improve your communication, not only will you feel more connected to your partner, but you will also feel confident about facing anything that comes your way, together, as a team. With help and support, you can have the relationship you’ve always dreamed about.
But You May Wonder Whether Couples Therapy Is Right For You…
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Can couples counseling really save our relationship or is it beyond repair?
Isn't couples counseling expensive?
What if we’re dealing with a specific issue, such as infidelity, financial problems, or LGBTQ-related challenges?
Let Us Help You And Your Partner Improve Communication And Restore Connection
Once you and your partner decide to engage in couples counseling, intimacy, connection, and better communication are within your grasp. For more information about couples therapy, please contact us.
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